“10 Things People Will NOT Tell You About Social Media”

“10 Things People Will Not Tell You About Social Media.”

Ariaa Jaeger

Social media is now as much of a fixture in our lives as electricity and the Kardashians. Over the past 5 years the surge in new social media sites and the need to participate in the majority of them has become as popular as baseball. While the benefits of social media are many, there are many down sides to being a part of the community at large, but most will shy away from mentioning it for fear of being black-listed.

While my own personal experience has been both a blessing and a curse, like many I continue to navigate the waters of sites which are constantly compromising privacy and have become more and more intrusive, as their popularity increases. There is an additional anomaly occurring which is far more familiar to human nature and sadly, social media has made it ever more possible. Bullying, spamming, cheating on a spouse or mate and falsely accusing others has become a new sport. It is so comparable to ancient Rome where gladiators took turns at slaying the disenfranchised, while the blood thirsty fed from the drama.

What’s more disturbing is the lack of character in those who are too cowardly to block or report haters, spammers and the like. They either fear the hate will be hurled onto them or they have their own agenda about spamming or they simply don’t care. The cheating arena grows larger every day too. Many articles have been written about the number of marriages and relationships which break up as a result of social media. But now we hear that the CIA has been monitoring our emails and social media activity which takes it to a whole new level.

The facts are simple;

  • If you are in social media you have NO privacy no matter what you adjust your settings to.
  • If you are in social media expect to have detractors, it will help prepare you for the shock of total strangers bastardizing your name and character assassinating you, just because you exist.
  • If you are in social media expect to have men and women hit on you and grasp that most of these are either fake accounts or are people who you would never want to get involved with if you ran into them in your local community.
  • If you are in social media expect your pictures to be stolen and used for fake accounts or worse, nothing is sacred to thieves, scammers and spammers.
  • If you are in social media, expect your account will be hacked at some time or another if you do not routinely change your password frequently to something complicated and unpredictable.
  • If you are in social media expect to be stalked. There is always someone who thinks they are in love with you whether you are male or female.
  • If you are in social media, have some self-respect and don’t post when you are upset, angry, sick, obsessing, ranting or making attempts at political suicide. Very few people want to engage with someone like that. Remember that everything you post in social media is there for an eternity.
  • If you are in social media, have courage and try to affect some good and stand for something meaningful. Share your gifts, your wisdom, inspirational quotes or blogs, or share charities and help raise money and awareness. “With so many in need, so many are needed!”
  • If you are in social media, be discerning. Do not follow or friend anyone who could be interpreted as a reflection of your consciousness. If you follow haters, spammers, bullies, trash talkers, negative people or oversexed, damaged souls, who post nude pictures of themselves, then somewhere in you, something needs a’fixin’.

And finally, if you are in social media, you are on your own. If you are bullied, threatened, if your art or work is stolen, if your pictures and content are stolen, if you are played for romance, sex, or are scammed out of money, social sites will not protect you. While you do have legal recourse in many of these areas, you will have to rely on yourself in taking action against the perpetrators.Image

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The Storm’s Siren

It is the mark of the human spirit to go through an EF5 tornado and survive it…TWICE. The statistics are I in 100 Trillion for that to happen yet it happened to 94 year old Nancy E. Davis of Moore, Oklahoma. As the news crews and rescue teams descended on the ravaged cities of Moore and Newcastle, you could find the enchanting, Ms. Davis climbing out of an underground box no bigger than 6 feet by 6 feet in size. “I can’t believe I am alive,” she said in disbelief, with a voice that sounded like that of a child. In 1999, an EF4 tornado tore through her town killing 36 people and leveling an 18 mile stretch along an almost identical path of destruction to Monday’s tornado, but once again, this lovely woman survived. Why do some survive and others do not? I think if you witnessed the resilience and calm, almost matter of fact demeanor of this brave, wise resident, you would understand why it is apparent angels where standing guard her soul.

With 24 dead including 9 children, these kinds of events always cause all of us such gut-wrenching heartbreak. As we watch the news coverage, we can’t imagine walking in their shoes. As an author and spiritual teacher, I work from home, often with CNN on all day as I work from my desk. May 20 was no exception. I watched in horror as this seething, hungry monster began forming; I began tweeting like a lunatic, messages to take cover and breaking news, play by play of the location of this beast as it unfolded. I was sending prayer requests to anyone in the viral world listening pausing only to shiver from the horror my eyes beheld. Fighting through the tears I continued to post on Twitter since it is the social media site which garners an immediate response. As the storm passed and the damage became apparent, I posted links for the American Red Cross and links to organizations to help the displaced livestock and pets. Again through the tears, my heart just ached but I felt so needed…..by who though? No one in this bastard of a storm was online, so why, what compels a person to stop whatever they are doing, to do whatever they can to help? Humanity, compassion and the “there but for the grace of God go I” acts as the propellant. But the main reason most of us are compelled to jump in to help  perfect strangers,  it’s because of women like Nancy E. Davis, who having lost everything…TWICE, but was as calm as the open sea after a storm and her courage and charm in the face of such a horrific disaster, was absolutely inspirational. Her smile and gratitude at just the fact she survived is a great lesson and one many, may never know. While some would be upset over losing their house and stuff, this wise soul was just grateful to be alive.

For those of us who lost our homes in the mortgage crisis and in my community, to the Waldo Canyon fire, a year ago this June, it is a gentle reminder that it could have been worse. It is a reminder that attitude is everything to overcoming loss, whether the loss of a pet, a relative, your house, your possessions or loss through divorce or separation; attitude and perseverance, the resiliency of the soul, are paramount to surviving and overcoming anything which tries to undermine your happiness. It is remarkably apparent that Nancy E. Davis has garnered a great deal of wisdom in her 94 years of life on earth and she is teaching all of us the value of strength, character and courage and having a resilient spirit. God bless you Nancy E. Davis.

“As you watch the world around you alter life’s terrain,

As you watch so many souls go through sorrow, loss or pain;

I urge you to remember there are blessings you can’t see,

Beneath the rubble is a seed that grows a stronger tree.”

~Ariaa Jaeger ~Ariaaisms~ Spiritual Food for the Soul~ ©Copyright 2013

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Paint Your Thoughts

Awaken to the world you paint with your thoughts everyday. There are no victims only those unaware of their karma, past or present, those blind to what they have attracted, good or bad, those who fail to take personal responsibility and discover the blessings within each life event.

Change your perceptions by discovering yourself, go within, meditate, seek the higher wisdom which lies within every soul. Seek the higher solutions which come in the silence where angels and sages eagerly await to help you overcome and master all you came to earth to fulfill. Wake up, tune in, spiritually evolve and stop blaming your family, your friends and the world for the lot you have drawn into your life. With every hardship there is mastery awaiting to be engaged. With every heartache quantum leaping of the soul comes. With every negative event, a positive one is sure to follow.

The earth is built on opposite polarities thus what goes up will come down, what comes down will rise again. There is a purpose and a reason unto all things. Seek to understand the measure of what you are creating, what you are a magnet to and learn to create with greater strokes of the paintbrush of life. For those who seek create the art of mastery, know thyself and discover the paradisaical within.

Ariaa Jaeger~Ariaaisms~ Spiritual Food for the Soul~ ©2013 all rights reserved Http://Ariaa.com/


The 57th Road – A Lifetime in Reflection

The 57th Road – A Lifetime in Reflection

By Ariaa Jaeger

In my life I have learned that having good character and pure integrity are the keys to inner peace.

In my life I have learned that serving others is an honor and is the key to inner joy.

In my life I have learned that loving myself is the key to perfect health.

In my life I have learned that giving of myself is the key to humility.

In my life I have learned that kindness is the key to peace.

In my life I have learned that laughter is the key to maintaining a youthful spirit and appearance.

In my life I have learned that failure is the key to resilience.

In my life I have learned that self-respect is the key to success.

In my life I have learned that taking care of my body is the key to preservation.

In my life I have learned that moderation is the key to well-being.

In my life I have learned that crying cleanses the soul and renews the spirit.

In my life I have learned that patience is the key to transformation.

In my life I have learned that forgiveness is the key to grace.

In my life I have learned that being persecuted is the key to greatness.

In my life I have learned that success is the key to helping humanity and creating a legacy.

In my life I have learned that friends come and go which is the key to flexibility.

In my life I have learned that every race, color & creed is the key to learning & gaining knowledge.

In my life I have learned that animals are the key to evolving tenderness & compassion.

In my life I have learned that nature is the key to the mystical.

In my life I have learned that touch is the key to connectivity.

In my life I have learned that taste is the key to bliss.

In my life I have learned that smell is the key to awareness.

In my life I have learned that closing my eyes is the key to vision.

In my life I have learned that prayer is the key to communication and angels.

In my life I have learned that meditation is the key to the enlightenment.

In my life I have learned that LOVE is the ULTIMATE TEACHER, the WAY SHOWER unto all things, LOVE is the ANSWER to every dilemma and the MASTER KEY which opens every door in the universe.

Ariaa Jaeger ~ Ariaaisms~ Spiritual Food for the Soul

Celebrating 57 years of LIFE, May 1, 2013