On Love


Love is a gift not an entitlement. Do you take for granted the love you receive from others? Do you do for them as much as they do for you or do you make excuses why you aren’t as giving? Remember that love is a gift and those who fail to cherish its magnificent magnitude often find themselves without love. Love is timeless….in other words it takes seconds to make a phone call, to write a note, to lend a helping hand or just to let someone know you are thinking of them…it takes NO time at all to love. Of all the human range of emotions, love is the easiest to extend, it is your composition, it is your core so it is natural to love. Anything less is unnatural to the soul. Even the smallest creatures are able to love effortlessly. Love is also the easiest virtue to master and only those with hearts of stone fail to navigate the illuminated journey to loves door. The road is always alive with color and light, the entire universe vibrates to love, even the heart is created to beat to loves perfect rhythms. There are scientific studies which demonstrate that those who love with abandon, those to make a consorted effort to ‪#‎LoveOutloud‬ live longer and are healthier than those who withhold or regulate the love they give. Today, tomorrow and always, just love. My love is always with you. ~Ariaa Jaeger

Ariaa Jaeger is a Spiritual Life Strategist, Intuitive counselor and Best-Selling Author. If you would like to make an appointment with Ariaa or wish to set up a free consultation or reading, visit her website, Ariaa.com

Whatever You Investigate You Attract


With so much technology at your fingers it is easy to google anything. That being said America is becoming a nation of hypochondriacs and neurotics. So many of you live to post your tests, your results and your diseases in social media never realizing you are feeding people’s fears. STOP IT. If you crave attention that much your issues are not physical, they are emotional and it would be wise to get counseling. Whatever you investigate you not only invite into your consciousness where it begins to fester and embed but you actually attract it to you and you infect others with your weakness and fear. If you think you have something and you think about it long enough, you will get it. This applies to pets and people. Begin looking upon and investigating what you dream of having and what you wish to create instead of what you fear. Think about contributing something helpful and inspiring instead; add to life, don’t fill the world with ignorance and nothingness. Heal your fears, ignore those small aches and pains which come with age and gravity. Use common sense, if it persists then seek some help. But by all means stop investigating things you don’t want. Knowledge is power but fret, fear and worry are dangerous to your well-being. I would far prefer you post your successes, your contributions to life, people and animals and your joys. Let’s celebrate that instead. ~Ariaa Jaeger

Ariaa Jaeger is a Spiritual Life Strategist, Intuitive counselor and Best-Selling Author. If you would like to make an appointment with Ariaa or wish to set up a free consultation or reading, visit her website, Ariaa.com

Stuffing for the Soul – Tips for a Stress-free Holiday

Holidays are stressful for everyone. Between food shopping, cleaning the house, setting the table and cooking a lavish meal, most are already up to their eyeballs in grasshoppers. Add in the typical family dynamics, house guests and cleaning up after everyone and most reach their threshold before the holiday is over.
As a leading authority on balancing the emotional body to prevent sickness and disease, I wish to offer you a few simple tips for eliminating stress so you can truly enjoy your holidays. These are strictly offered as a suggestion but it is up to you to implement them and really be proactive in your own well-being. If you don’t take time out for yourself, you are missing the key ingredient for bringing harmony to your dinner table and to your other festivities.ThanksgivingdinnerAriaaJaeger2009

1. Get plenty of sleep including taking a 15-30 minute nap everyday right after lunch. Not only do you give your body a chance to digest your food properly but you reset your body’s rhythms.

2. Listen to some classical music. Playing calming music has a positive effect on your brain and lowers your blood pressure, reduces cortisol, the hormone linked to stress and it calms the central nervous system. If you are not a fan of classical music then listen to some nature or ocean sounds.

3. Call a friend. Many times taking a break to just sit and chat with a friend will have the same effect as chatting with a therapist. The idea is to get your mind off of the holidays and instead just spend time laughing and enjoying a lighthearted conversation. Gaining perspective is everything to shifting stress. Talking to yourself is another way to gain perspective, don’t be shy, no one is going to judge you.

4. Eat a balanced diet. A healthy diet with a balance of proteins, fruits and vegetables is just common sense but also aids in reducing stress. Fruits and vegetables are always good, and fish with high levels of omega-3 fatty acids have been shown to reduce the symptoms of stress. A tuna sandwich really is brain food.
5. Don’t take anything personal! The holidays are often fodder for family disagreements and arguments. Make a rule to not solve any family issues during the holidays and change the subject if anyone goes down that path. Life is too short, make some wonderful memories instead of holding court.
6. Laugh! Laughter releases endorphin’s that improve mood and decrease levels of the stress-causing hormones cortisol and adrenaline. Rent or go see a funny movie, watch some funny You Tube videos. Go to a comedy club or just watch some sitcoms. Laughter is the ultimate medicine for anything from sickness to mood swings.
7. Exercise in moderation. That does not mean kill yourself at the gym. You can engage in water exercise, yoga, Pilates, walking, running, bicycling, Tai Chi or Isometrics. Walking in particular is a great stress reducer and even a quarter mile walk has essential benefits for relieving stress and shifting perception.
8. Cherish each other. Remember that at any time someone you know or love might leave the earth unexpectedly so make the most of the memories you can create. Be cognizant that if it were you last day, would you be pleased with how you lived your final hours? Avoid criticizing and trying to fix things.
9. Meditate often especially prior to holidays or stress-filled events. Meditation is simply sitting still for 15 or 20 minutes, longer if you have time and emptying out your thoughts and breathing deeply to oxygenate the body. When you do that, you alter your brain chemistry. Meditation in this day and age is not only a spiritual modality but is viewed far and wide as an effective tool for well-being. It is used in post op and pre-op patients to accelerate healing and even the American Medical Association now attributes some form of meditation practice to living healthier lives.
10. Enjoy yourself! Many times we are so busy trying to make everything wonderful for everyone else that we forget to enjoy ourselves! These are your holidays too! Make the most out of the true meaning of this time of year. Immerse yourself in tradition and celebration and enjoy the rewards of all your hard work.

11. Be sensible! Most people are cheerful givers but the problem is as a society we OVERSPEND every year then stress over the debt we have amassed. This year consider making gifts or baking for those in your life. A handmade gift is far more cherished than store bought junk. Additionally be reasonable with your spending. Statistics show that the average amount a person spends on a friend or family member is between $50 and $65 dollars. Most would be happy with a gift costing half of that because it truly is the thought that counts.

12. Remember the reason for the season. Thanksgiving, Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa and other holidays celebrated at this time of year are sacred holidays and material stuff is simply a gesture not the foundation of the holidays. The foundation is of course what you personally believe in and it is a time to celebrate gratitude with and for family and friends. Don’t forget the meaning behind all the holidays because a grateful heart is the center of joy.



Are you appalled? Are you shocked? Are you mortified? Are you disgusted? Are you revolted? It must be exhausting. With modern day conveniences and so much at your fingertips, society in general has had to invent things to be pissed off at.

I had a very rich friend in my life not that long ago and she was so “disgusted” when a man who was clearly dying got onto a small plane and had the nerve to sit by her in his condition. She was so rich she invented something to bitch about and remarked, “God I hope he does not get his drool on my fur coat!” THEN I WAS APPALLED and suffice to say within weeks distanced myself from this fur wearing, ice cold human being, simply because I didn’t want to be appalled anymore.

Now clearly not all wealthy people act that way and having excess money does not make you a bad person. But our society often acts like a rich, spoiled bitch with a sense of entitlement as if the world owes us all something. The world owes YOU nothing, yet we see people in horror everyday acting out when there is a slow customer service representative on the other end of the phone or more when you can’t understand what they are saying. We get angry in traffic because driving 50 MPH is just not acceptable in a 45 MPH zone. We are disgusted when we see people living in filth or hoarding so much stuff you cannot enter their home without knocking something over. We are shocked when a mother whips out her breast to feed her hungry child and some poor ignorant, backwoods folks are revolted when a transgender person walks into a public restroom, one woman on the news proclaiming, “I have a right to pee without having to deal with that!” WOW! That disgusts me….get my point?

Let’s lower the drama rate in this country and maybe the world will follow suite. Let’s stop inventing things to be angry at, let’s stop the combustible emotions and start focusing on the real issues which demand our attention.

Be impassioned when police brutality is caught on tape, be impassioned when animals are being abused or driven to extinction. Be angry and use that anger when children are neglected or left in a hot car to bake to death. Be embolden when you see something YOU KNOW you can change then set about to change it. Stop fretting and freaking out over the little insignificant inconveniences which go with daily living and make sure you are using your energy on the issues which are worthy of those passionate emotions.

Ariaa Jaeger


Dudley Do Right


It was 88 degrees and he was standing on hot asphalt in the parking lot and he was wearing a Dudley Do-Right-esque hat. His body looked healthy and strong but his gate was feeble and frail. His face and his teeth gave his true age away yet his smile was as big as his determination. With his brief case in his hand, he began looking around ever so confused as if he had lost his way, head turning from side to side.
I pulled into the parking lot and ask if I could give him a ride and after a bit of confusion about the address, off we went in search of a house where he was seeking help with his computer. I ask him his name and he replied, “I’m Gene Fleming and thank you for taking so much of your time to help me.” I laughed of course and told him it was no problem that I was happy to do it and so as not to offend him or make him feel elderly, I mentioned how hot it was to be walking on asphalt. I’ve learned in my many years as an elderly advocate that there is a certain psychology which one must employ to ensure that the dignity and independence of a senior is preserved.
When we arrived at the house I told Gene I would be happy to wait for him to give him a ride back home. That is when he told me where he lived and to my astonishment he had taken a city bus then walked almost a half a mile before I found him. He was bright -eyed like a newborn eagerly anticipating his new day. He was determined not to let age prevent him from thriving. I apologized for my car having so much stuff on the seat and in the floor and made a joke about it being a girl thing, he remarked that his beloved wife who had died recently always kept her car in the same condition. Naturally, I insisted on giving him a ride home when he was finished with his business but to no avail, he continued to insist he would be fine. As I waited until the owner answered the door of the house we arrived at, I took a picture of him standing at the door…there was just something so sweet and vulnerable about this man. I struggled to pull away from the curb.
I drove home uneasy. My instinct was urgently begging me to drive back immediately and wait in front of the house but I had business to take care of so I finished it as quickly as I could and jumped back into the car within 35 minutes. I returned to the house and sat in front of the home patiently waiting, praying he was still there and feeding the neighborhood squirrels with the stash of peanuts I keep in the trunk of my car. After waiting for 30 minutes I went up to the door and rang the doorbell…no one was home.
Now I was really struck…where could they have gone so soon? It’s funny how the imagination runs amuck even though your sensible self knows all is fine.
I continued on the Office Max to pick up my order and wouldn’t you know it they were backed up so 5 minutes turned into 30 which I knew was a perfect timing thing. I just had to return to the house one more time to ensure that little fellow had made it home safely.
When I got back to that home, the garage door was opened and the dogs were barking in unison. I rang the doorbell and a lovely older woman answered with the phone glued to her ear. She waved me in and I told her who I was and that I was concerned about Gene and wondering if he had gotten home safely. She said, “Who?” and the blood drained from my face. I explained with haste, she nodded and said he had not given his name. He found them through an ad and yet her husband was kind enough to drive him the long way back to his home. As we stood there talking she told me she was a seamstress and I just had to laugh, partially from relief that Gene was fine and on his way home and because I had been looking for a good seamstress for several weeks.
Moral of the story, do all the good you can at all times, trusting your instincts. As it turned out, this lovely road, catering to an elderly man, also brought me to my destination in finding a seamstress. You never know where Spirit and your highest self are leading you but you sure do want to follow.