From Trolls to Triumph

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When I first opened my Twitter account in March 2009, I was the proverbial fish out of water, navigating the subterraneous quicksand of a viral world with little couth, manners or self-respect. I began posting original content eager to share the volumes of poetry, prose and original quotes I had written for more than five decades but I never gave a thought to seeking fame or fortune. My goals were far more altruistic in nature.

My stream was filled with businesses promotions, sales pitches and fake celebrities, while a staggering number were seeking viral fame. There were those who would tweet or should I say SCREAM, IN ALL CAPS at celebrities, trying to get their attention. To say the least it was a diverse demographic of the success seekers, artists, lonely hearts and of course, the bizarre.

Very few were posting anything inspirational at the time and even fewer were posting anything about love, spirituality or God. I was one of the first, if not the first, to post the hashtag #PrayerRequest when national or world events occurred. I never considered how threatening that would be to atheists, witches and those who were the rallying cry for everything dark and ugly. In my naiveté, I began friending faceless beings who were sitting behind a computer waiting for something to jump on.

Within four months, the United Nations found a song I posted on Twitter and invited me to sing at the Spirit Awards, and that was the moment the trolls came out of their darkened caves.

At first it was just a small group of disgruntled tweeting, who were unhappy with themselves but soon it began to grow and fester like an oozing boil refusing to heal. Every lonely, angry, frustrated, weak-willed or threatened follower glommed on all looking for a villain to hide behind. Sadly, people do love a blood bath as witnessed with the recent rise in celebrity on celebrity feuds so the louder the leader, the greater the number of minions.

In 2009, Cyberbullying was a relatively new societal anomaly and there were no provisions in place to prevent or stop the onslaught. Statisticians vary on the volume of cyberbullying related suicides but to say there has been an increase since 2005, would be an understatement.

In my meditations I continually heard, “Don’t react, don’t respond,” so I didn’t for years and about every 10 months they would start all over again and each time with more fervor. I have always believed and even wrote the quote, “When you get defensive, you have already lost the battle,” and there was nothing to defend anyway. The fabrication of stories, lies and character assassination was complete with fakes videos, fake accounts, computer hacking and vulgar phone calls and tweets.

One day in their boredom, they contacted the Chief Operating Officer and branding phenome of a billion dollar corporation, reporting that I was infringing on the copyrights of their famed photographer. I had used some of her photography, found in google images, without knowing she was the photog. Finding the owners of such public images is often difficult, if not altogether impossible, with such an enormous volume of images in the public domain.

In his email, this COO stated that he’d be contacted by these folks but after having a look at my website, he found nothing alarming and instead thought my site was “inspirational.” He then gave me permission to use any of their copyrighted images, any time I wanted. It was a powerful moment witnessing hate backfire on those who hurled it at me.

His email was a beacon of light in a very dark storm and from that day forward, not only did I admire his business acumen but I soon came to know him better in continued emails and a lengthy phone call.

Over the years, more of the same continued from the trolls, each time the volume was deafening and each time I walked through the fire with few if any burns. I watched as one by one, they begin to die from heart attacks, cancers and strokes. To date 8 of the original bullies have left the earth and I tell you that in all humility because it is such a good example of how emotions affect health. I felt a sense of compassion for them because I knew they were victims of their own hate, and that is the most important message you can take from this.

Everything you put into the world emotionally returns to you without exception. The emotion of hate blocks arteries, anger kills human organs and cells, meanness and false accusations destroy well-being. When people project their own unhealed emotions and dysfunction onto others, the boomerang effect is inevitable. “What you think you are doing to another, you are in fact doing to yourself.” It is always a surprise to me when someone harbors, acts out or humiliates themselves by showing others who they are in such a public venue. It’s like watching an intoxicated friend, stick their head in the commode while you stand by helplessly. They are unable to see how they are being perceived by the public at large until the next day when they hang their head in humiliation complete with embarrassment and regret.

Since then, strict laws have been enacted prohibiting and dealing with social media bullies. Social media sites now have provisions in place to delete the accounts of those who use a computer to threaten, terrorize, intimidate or harass anyone online and in many states such acts are deemed felonies, accompanied by serious jail time.

In the more than 23 years I’ve been teaching higher consciousness, I’ve learned that embracing the dark moments of life is as essential as dancing in the light. All aspects have purpose and all challenges are nothing more than a catalyst to expand your consciousness. No matter how painful, no matter how difficult, the soul chose and attracted all of it on some level. You may not EVER know the reason why something happens in your life although most of the time, the reasons do become clear with time. You then look back, remembering the pain as you bask in the glory of where that road of heartache led you, which brings me to the capstone of this story.

I am grateful for every single person who contributed to the hardships, heartaches and trials of my journey through life. The purpose for the bullying had now led me to my future, a greater outcome than I could have dreamed.

On July 17, 2016, the COO of the billion dollar brand, the world renowned phenome of licensing, branding and marketing, the same one the trolls contacted just three years ago, became my Master Agent, for literary, licensing, public relations, branding and marketing. There could be no one more qualified to handle me, my company and the entire body of work I have been creating for decades. He is a giant in his field of expertise and he would not have found me, if not for those that meant harm to me. What they meant for harm, Spirit meant for good. The feeling ran akin and it reminded me of the Biblical Joseph who was thrown into the pit by his jealous brothers, abused as a slave of Egypt for twenty years, then lifted up as the second most powerful man in all of Egypt.

I now realize if not for those unhappy, hateful souls, I would not be aglow in the rapture of this incredible and fortuitous pairing.

 

Ariaa is a  Spiritual Life Strategist, Global Thought Leader, Huffington Post Contributor, Animal/Human Rights/Senior Advocate

http://www.Ariaa.com

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What Are You Really Saying?

So you have something to say as you sit on your couch eating Fritos while guzzling your beer? So you have something to say as you meander through the halls of your office muttering about the injustices of the world under your breath? So you have something to say as you rant and rave in the safety of your car as you navigate Friday traffic. So you have something to say as you post your world views, (even though you have never actually studied world history or ever traveled outside of this country) factually unverified, fear provoking, vitriolic propaganda? So you exercise your first amendment right of free speech to hate on politicians, total strangers, people in social media, those you disagree with, those you wish to bully, you use your free speech to verbally assault anyone who is different than you. And you do all that never realizing how you are denigrating yourself, you are making yourself physically ugly while sabotaging your own health. There you are vomiting your unhappiness on anyone and everyone never seeing how much it says about you and your inability to love or even like yourself. You show yourself when you attack others, you verify the obvious, that you have no self-respect, no personal integrity or clearly no intelligence. And all the while your rhetoric and hate are amassing and multiplying, building and growing around no one but you waiting until you are at your happiest to return and undo your world. You contribute to nothing, you add to nothing, your existence is nothing more than that of fallen log in the forest, dead, fruitless, casting only a momentary shadow on the living. You will wither and die leaving no legacy, no meaning and being easily forgotten.

How’s that working for you?

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The Science of Hate

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The Science of Hate

By Ariaa Jaeger

“To get past hate, you must go to the root of all forms in the secret place where love arises. From this place, my friend, the divine spark bursts forth.” ~ Faouzi Skali (20th-21st Century)

Historically hate was once contained to holy wars or political circles but in this new age of electronic media it has found a new audience to feed its insatiable appetite and with far greater impact. With the onslaught of social media in 2004 when Facebook arrived on the scene followed by Twitter in 2006, cyber bullies and haters have become commonplace. Singer Susan Boyle, Chef Rachel Ray and many other celebrities know firsthand the sting of blogs, news stories and magazine articles declaring truth in fabricated and slanderous gray journalism. But today in social media you can find ordinary, hardworking, God loving, law-abiding citizens, spiritualists, philosophers, minor celebrities and popular social media personalities the target of online bullies and angry souls who have an excess supply of jealousy, envy, anger and little to no success of their own. A haters goal is to project or hurl as it were, his or her self-hate onto you and though it may feel very personal, it never is personal.

 The very word “hater” was not even in the dictionary before social media became the new playground and fodder for the bottom feeders of society who could gather a large audience quickly and ensure their own popularity with the lowest forms of humanity. Satan had found his new regime in these punks and attention seeking bullies who have been responsible for more young people committing suicide than any other group in history.  Where self-respect and personal dignity once thrived in the days of our grandparents and great-grandparents, today’s climate is one which is self-serving, over wrought with a sense of entitlement and a demographic which thrives on instant gratification and hungers for fame.

What is the psychology of hate? Adolph Hitler, Ann Coulter, Rush Limbaugh are all known for espousing hate ad nauseam and rose in popularity because of the rhetoric and propaganda they delivered into a world hungry for fresh blood. Today’s new breed of hater is cult-like and has electronic media and a gaggle of dysfunctional people who will help spread the hate to ensures it bleeds into the search engine mainstream.  Where bullies use to be satisfied with taking their target down, many haters have become downright dangerous and hell bent on destroying their victim. There is not a week go by that we don’t see a news story of some teenager who has committed suicide because of the callous actions of bullies and haters. They have taken self-loathing to a new level, regurgitating their own unhappiness onto innocent people. Those who engage in this type of behavior are typically unhappy, unsuccessful, addicted to drugs or alcohol, have low to no self esteem and many have experienced being bullied themselves at one time or another. They feed on the need to control, manipulate and contort truth, yet many are unable to grasp or discipher what actual truth is. They are also prone to violence, hurting animals and hurting themselves and many times have a criminal history.

What haters fail to see and fully grasp is the law of karma which inevitably returns to them usually with far greater impact doing far worse damage than they have done to their intended victims. Typically haters are not very educated and are never spiritually evolved thus they do not understand the laws of physics and the spiritual law of intention.  When combined energy and mass create a combustible cocktail of energy can often return to the hater within weeks and months of their acts of bullying.

The Grammy-winning Songwriter Malik Yusef summed it up best in his beautiful Huffington Post blog, “The Psychology of Hate.” http://www.huffingtonpost.com/malik-yusef/the-psychology-of-a-hater_b_1491354.html ) “The best way to tell a hater is: look at how they treat others and look at their actions. Don’t think you are special. If they tear down and disrespect people they consider friends, and then smile in their faces when they come around, don’t deceive yourself as though they won’t be the same with you. I think the hardest thing for us as humans to do is accept people for exactly who they are. As Maya Angelou said, “When someone shows you their true colors, believe them.” Hatred ultimately destroys the hater. Don’t get tricked into thinking that you have to carry the burden of hate. The psychology of a hater is to impose their self-hate on others. It’s not as much about you as it is about them. Don’t take hate personally, because at the end of the day — it just isn’t. Don’t look at hate as a reflection of yourself and your work, but don’t use it as a crutch either. Take time to reflect and critique yourself and surround yourself with others who are honest enough to do the same. Now go get you some haters!”

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All of you know me as a healthy, happy person who shines love, light and laughter into the world each and every day. This video is none of those things and comes with a strong warning as it is raw, emotional and heavy laden. On Friday I learned of the suicide of a dear friend whom I loved very much and have spent the weekend reeling thus the video. I am ONLY posting it in hopes that if you know of anyone who may be dealing with thoughts of suicide, I urge you to let someone know and get them some help. If you are dealing with these emotions, there is nothing to be ashamed of….every human with rare exception has thought about taking their own life at one time or another. If you need help, please reach out. We care. All my love, Ariaa