The Wisdom of Restraint

 

AriaaJaegerRestraintHow much self-control do you have and do you realize that self-control is power? Did you know that when you fail to use it by popping off, voicing your useless opinion or stating the obvious, you are actually giving up your power? Now don’t get me wrong, there are times when you have to engage productively to create change as with Human/LGBT/Animal and Senior rights or other causes for the environment or other. But notice the word “productively”.

Due in part to social media which has become a platform for the ignorant, the angry, fame whores, the weak and attention seekers, we are seeing the onslaught of ugly spewed ad nauseum daily. Everyone wants to throw in their 2 cents typically revealing the personal dysfunctional issues, which they have clearly failed to address. As a Spiritual Life Strategist and wellness counselor, its a mine field for me. I see all the souls I could help if only they were willing. Sadly in most cases they enjoy their vitriol or mommy damage way too much to ever heal it. In fact most of these who behave badly feed from it. They need it like they need breath never realizing how clearly others see their pain or personal demons.

Restraint is an art form and if people would just take a ten count pause and ask one simple question, “How can I ADD something useful to this conversation?” vs “How can show my arrogance and stupidity right now?” the world would vastly improve. As one grows older you realize some things will not change with words, that words are useless and a waste of energy. Actions speak louder than words. Take your power back and measure whether your words and behavior contribute something valuable or simply add to the cesspool of stupid. ~Ariaa Jaeger Ariaa.com (if you want to heal it, get in touch with me.)

Ariaa Jaeger is a Spiritual Life Strategist, Intuitive counselor and Best-Selling Author. If you would like to make an appointment with Ariaa or wish to set up a free consultation or reading, visit her website, Ariaa.com

Well I NEVER…

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Are you appalled? Are you shocked? Are you mortified? Are you disgusted? Are you revolted? It must be exhausting. With modern day conveniences and so much at your fingertips, society in general has had to invent things to be pissed off at.

I had a very rich friend in my life not that long ago and she was so “disgusted” when a man who was clearly dying got onto a small plane and had the nerve to sit by her in his condition. She was so rich she invented something to bitch about and remarked, “God I hope he does not get his drool on my fur coat!” THEN I WAS APPALLED and suffice to say within weeks distanced myself from this fur wearing, ice cold human being, simply because I didn’t want to be appalled anymore.

Now clearly not all wealthy people act that way and having excess money does not make you a bad person. But our society often acts like a rich, spoiled bitch with a sense of entitlement as if the world owes us all something. The world owes YOU nothing, yet we see people in horror everyday acting out when there is a slow customer service representative on the other end of the phone or more when you can’t understand what they are saying. We get angry in traffic because driving 50 MPH is just not acceptable in a 45 MPH zone. We are disgusted when we see people living in filth or hoarding so much stuff you cannot enter their home without knocking something over. We are shocked when a mother whips out her breast to feed her hungry child and some poor ignorant, backwoods folks are revolted when a transgender person walks into a public restroom, one woman on the news proclaiming, “I have a right to pee without having to deal with that!” WOW! That disgusts me….get my point?

Let’s lower the drama rate in this country and maybe the world will follow suite. Let’s stop inventing things to be angry at, let’s stop the combustible emotions and start focusing on the real issues which demand our attention.

Be impassioned when police brutality is caught on tape, be impassioned when animals are being abused or driven to extinction. Be angry and use that anger when children are neglected or left in a hot car to bake to death. Be embolden when you see something YOU KNOW you can change then set about to change it. Stop fretting and freaking out over the little insignificant inconveniences which go with daily living and make sure you are using your energy on the issues which are worthy of those passionate emotions.

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Numb and Numb-er

children's lessons

Little child
Dry your crying eyes
How can I explain
The fear you feel inside
‘Cause you were born
Into this evil world
Where man is killing man
And no one knows just why

What have we become
Just look what we have done
All that we destroyed
You must build again

When the children cry
Let them know we tried
‘Cause when the children sing
Then the new world begins ~ “When The Children Cry” originally recorded by White Lion
The overstimulation and desensitization of American society has reached an all-time high.
Of course there are still many who are appalled at the racist actions of police departments and antiquated citizens which take place every day in America and there are many who work ardently to cause the cessation of racism, hate speech, mental illness, animal abuse and the like. But the fact is we are becoming hardened as a society which over time actually alters the genetic pool.
Dopamine is the feel good chemical released in the brain and when it is too high for too long, nerve cells lose their sensitivity. Conversely, lower dopamine levels generate an internal hungering for dopamine-raising activities and stimulants. Studies reveal that this is one of the many reasons the internet, social media and pornography are so addictive. With the onslaught of news and other media, the constant videos of hate mongers, killing, animal abuse and child abuse, society as a whole is becoming desensitized. The constant exposure to all the above generates sensory overload and takes a toll on brain connectors.
So what are the solutions and how does one person alter this dim terrain of the numbing of America? It is simple, practice compassion and do least one selfless deed a day for a stranger. Compassion is the antidote to a hardened heart. Walk in the shoes of another and I mean really place yourself in their shoes. Imagine what you would do if you were living the life of those you read about and see on the news every day. Compassion and acts of kindness alter brain chemistry and it has been asserted that humans can be trained to be compassionate.
Quoting from a University of Wisconsin article, “A new study by researchers at the Center for Investigating Healthy Minds at the Waisman Center of the University of Wisconsin-Madison shows that adults can be trained to be more compassionate. The report, recently published online in the journal Psychological Science, is the first to investigate whether training adults in compassion can result in greater altruistic behavior and related changes in neural systems underlying compassion.” ”The researchers measured how much brain activity had changed from the beginning to the end of the training, and found that the people who were the most altruistic after compassion training were the ones who showed the most brain changes when viewing human suffering. They found that activity was increased in the inferior parietal cortex, a region involved in empathy and understanding others. Compassion training also increased activity in the dorsolateral prefrontal cortex and the extent to which it communicated with the nucleus accumbens, brain regions involved in emotion regulation and positive emotions.” “Compassion, like physical and academic skills, appears to be something that is not fixed, but rather can be enhanced with training and practice. “The fact that alterations in brain function were observed after just a total of seven hours of training is remarkable,” explains UW-Madison psychology and psychiatry professor Richard J. Davidson, founder and chair of the Center  for Investigating Healthy Minds and senior author of the article.

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Additionally, the practice of meditation and the practice of extending oneself beyond the normal parameters of giving, aid in developing a compassionate heart. Anytime you factor intention into an equation, energetically, the results will be magnified based on the amount of energy infused in the original intention. Going out of your way to help others triggers the same feel good chemicals in the brain that addicts enjoy and in doing so you alter the brain chemistry permanently. There has never been a better time to elevate your actions while altering the human brain terrain.
If you want some new ideas on how to help others in extraordinary ways or would like to learn to meditate get in touch with me, it has been my passion for more than 25 years. ~Ariaa Jaeger, Ariaa.com

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Lingering Too Long

Are you one of those folks who belabors the story and never gets to the point? Do you rehash and regurgitate your heartaches, your sickness’s, your hardship story ad nauseum to everyone who will listen? Do you like to wallow and linger in the drama of it all? Well good luck with that. The more you linger in anything woeful or challenging the more you set your bio-chemistry for the future. The more you engage the drama the more you imprint the event in your consciousness and in your body thus creating a “locked” image which in time will continue to create the same behavior and will set up patterns which repeat themselves. Processing any trauma or drama is essential for healing and growth, however one must be diligent to recognize when enough is enough. Embrace the challenge and derive whatever lessons you can from it, then let it go and move forward. The more expeditiously you move through any emotional upheaval the greater you grow, the higher you raise your frequency and the less vulnerable you become to sickness and disease. ~ Ariaa JaegerAriaaisms Spiritual Food for the Soul – Ariaa.com (if you want to know more about how to process with perfection, get in touch with me, I have been guiding people to perfect health and well being for more than 21 years.) AriaaJaegerLingering

The Unproductive “Fight”

If you “fight” a disease, it will burrow into you. If you “fight” the establishment, it will engulf you.If you “fight” not having enough money, you will have less than if you just let go and trust you are supplied. If you “fight” for justice, you become a part of the violence which created it. If you “fight” for diplomacy through war, you are no longer diplomatic, you are a part of the problem. Instead of fighting, embrace, seek to understand it and find a way to be at peace with it so the higher solutions come which are the most peaceable and effective. “Too much emotion kills solutions.” Ariaaisms Spiritual Food for the SoulThe Book of Ariaa Ariaa.com #in

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