Truth is a slippery slope and is becoming more of a novelty in America of late. By some studies 99% of the human population lies at some time or another and about 75% lie regularly. Studies have shown that lying is now at epidemic proportions, in fact it has become so main stream that most don’t blink an eye when face to face with a liar.
An excerpt from Psychology Today conveys it quite succinctly:
“In a study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, DePaulo and Deborah A. Kashy, Ph.D., of Texas A&M University, report that frequent liars tend to be manipulative and Machiavellian, not to mention overly concerned with the impression they make on others. The work by Bella DePaulo, Ph.D., a psychologist at the University of Virginia, confirms Nietzsche’s assertion that the lie is a condition of life. In a 1996 study, DePaulo and her colleagues had 147 people between the ages of 18 and 71 keep a diary of all the falsehoods they told over the course of a week. Most people, she found, lie once or twice a day—almost as often as they snack from the refrigerator or brush their teeth. Both men and women lie in approximately a fifth of their social exchanges lasting 10 or more minutes; over the course of a week they deceive about 30 percent of those with whom they interact one-on-one. Furthermore, some types of relationships, such as those between parents and teens, are virtual magnets for deception: “College students lie to their mothers in one out of two conversations,” reports DePaulo. (Incidentally, when researchers refer to lying, they don’t include the mindless pleasantries or polite equivocations we offer each other in passing, such as “I’m fine, thanks” or “No trouble at all.” An “official” lie actually misleads, deliberately conveying a false impression. So complimenting a friend’s awful haircut or telling a creditor that the check is in the mail both qualify.)” Saxe points out that most of us receive conflicting messages about lying. Although we’re socialized from the time we can speak to believe that it’s always better to tell the truth, in reality society often encourages and even rewards deception. Show up late for an early morning meeting at work and its best not to admit that you overslept. “You’re punished far more than you would be if you lie and say you were stuck in traffic,” Saxe notes. Moreover, lying is integral to many occupations. Think how often we see lawyers constructing far-fetched theories on behalf of their clients or reporters misrepresenting themselves in order to gain access to good stories.”
While the majority does engage in truth-less-ness there are rare handfuls who are truthful often to the point of bluntness and many times ridiculed for their blatant honesty. Those who take the high road of truthfulness are often relegated and limited in the volume of friendships they enjoy. As odd as it may seem, many people do NOT want the truth, they want a dumbed down version of the truth.
Take the current political season with the rhetoric and hateful spew of the leading GOP candidate who speaks in soundbites and with such vitriol that his lies are often masked by the onslaught of verbiage, hurled like vomit splattering on glass at anyone who opposes or questions him. Professional liars are cunning and able to cut with such a sharp knife that the lies become a moot point because most prefer to just run away or turn off the television rather than ferreting out the truth of what was said.
Society has come to accept the antics of brawling, manipulative, venom spewing, ornery housewives, the hate and fear mongering of talking heads and the shallow, superficial ramblings of fame hungry bimbos and rednecks. Television is filled with the genetically challenged, those using negative ways to get attention and emotionally starved and scarred people, who will do anything including lie to fill their vacuous lives.
What happened to us? When did we become Sodom and Gomorrah? When did class, dignity and self-respect dissolve into this cesspool of the disgusting and despicable? Where are the brilliant minds and beautiful hearts that bring the balance to a society in desperate need of resurrection? Are we destined to repeat the past or will the voice of common sense and higher consciousness raise the light and frequency to such a profound degree that it mutes the darkness and eliminates the soul-less? We can only hope so but more we can stop contributing to those who perpetuate the hate, those who feed the ugly and those who refuse to grow and change for the better…and there are millions of them feeding off of the energy of liars and angry men.
Run reader run, away from the deceptive, run away from the vial, away from the drama and especially from those who create it. It is not yours to fix the lot but it is your responsibility to open the doors of higher ways and higher solutions to those willing to walk through them. You cannot change anyone, they have to want to change, they have to be willing to grow and you have to be willing to walk away from those who won’t.Don’t be fooled by soundbites; don’t feed the hate machine or you risk losing yourself in the quicksand of ignorance.
Inspire others, love and pray for each other, lift others, keep your heart attuned to kindness and to honesty for that is still the way of the peaceful warrior and today more than ever we need more peaceful warriors. ~Ariaa Jaeger
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